It is at a time like this, in a place like this, when you
reflect and consider many things that make up your life.
For so many years now I have been focused on making myself
the most competitive, yet happy, individual amongst my peers, in order to stand
out and expand my opportunities. I wanted to be the best at everything and
prove to everyone that I was capable of doing anything I set my mind to.
Entrusting my adolescent wisdom I assumed my life would feel full and complete
if I was able to achieve my personal desires and be looked at with respect for
the accomplishments I had made in my life. Now as I sit here, in a world so
different from the one I know, my personal perception of how life should be
lived is in flux. I am reconsidering all preconceived notions I had about how
life should be lived.
Upon entering college, my life turned into a rat race. I
loaded myself down with classes, sports, extracurricular clubs, and two jobs to
top it all off. My life was busy, and I worked really hard at everything I did.
I thought, “If I can complete all of this and survive college I will be able to
live the life I want and be happy.” This thought, and the notion that one day I
would have the chance to change many people’s lives in a positive way kept me
working tirelessly day in and day out. But looking back now, did I have it
right? Was the life I was living truly going to find me happiness? I don’t know
and I am still searching for the answer. Nonetheless, amongst the many
questions left unanswered in my head, I have come to understand three common
themes I live my life by. These themes have been highlighted in the brevity of
my first week in India.
I now want to introduce them to you and see what you think.
Perhaps, from the infinite wisdom found amongst all our wonderful brains we can
come to a conclusion on some basic themes one should live there life by. To me,
these themes bring life back to the basics.
1) Happiness
Life is not worth living if you are not happy. Happiness is
a relative term, and you must ultimately decide for yourself what will or will
not make you happy. If you are not happy, reconsider the way you live your
life. There is always time to change, and who knows what that change may bring
to your life.
2) Family and loved ones
I don’t know what I would do without my family and the
people I love most in my life. They are my backbone, my support, and my
inspiration. I want to make them proud of the person I have become and let them
see their time and efforts to shape and mold me into what I am today have not
been wasted.
In my rush to take on the world I almost lost sight of this
incredible truth. Family is your home base and your happiness depends on the
happiness of your family and loved ones. So don’t forget about where you came
from, because when you are alone in the world your family will always be your
light in the darkness.
3) A bigger purpose
It is at the age I am now that many of my peers and I are
asking THE BIG QUESTION “What is my purpose?” This is no easy question to
answer, but the answer cannot be found by simply wallowing in the question
itself. The answer can be found in action, movement, and discovery of the
world. I like to think of this saying “Life will not come to you. You have to
come to life.” I walk with this phrase everyday recognizing what I want and the
purpose I am searching for are not going to just show up at my doorstep one
morning. If you are looking for a “bigger yes,” a “bigger purpose” you must
actively search for it. Now get off your couch and get moving, because your
purpose is waiting for you. Now go find it!!!
So, at the end of the day if you find yourself tired and
overworked, maybe it is time to ponder these three questions about your life:
1)
Are you happy?
If not, what are you going to do to find that happiness?
2)
Where does your family and loved ones fit in
your life?
Do they know how much you love them and appreciate them? I
know in my rush to conquer this world I almost forgot to take a moment and let
the loved ones in my life know how much they meant to me. I would be nothing
without them.
3)
Do you get up every morning with a “bigger yes”,
a purpose?
You should live your life with goals. They do not have to be
big and complex ones. They can be as simple as making your neighbor smile or
fixing the leaky hose in the backyard. But if you get up with a goal in sight
every morning, you will have a direction and reason to feel fulfillment in the
life you live.
These are the questions I have asked myself while in India.
My life has slowed down here and I can mull over such questions as the ones
above.
Last of all I will leave you with a quick poem I wrote:
Life is a wave:
Like a wave life will pass,
So short we barely grasp,
Life peaks, and then breaks,
A speck in time that fails to last
What are you going to
do to make this world a better place in your life?